I genuinely understand that choosing funeral flowers is not the easiest of tasks, and for many people it can be difficult to know how to get it right. There are a number of things which you need to consider including cost, taste as well as making sure that you choose flowers which are fitting and appropriate for the occasion. To help you get it right, I’ve put together some top tips for you below:
1. Double Check The Wishes Of The Family
Before deciding to buy flowers, it’s a great idea to check that the family are ok with this. Some families now tend to add a notice requesting that in lieu of flowers, donations to a nominated charity are preferred. If there is no such notice, assume that flowers are ok. You may also want to double check their religious beliefs in order to see what’s appropriate.
2. Consider The Deceased’s Personality
Choosing flowers which represent the personality of the deceased is a fitting way to remember and celebrate the life of that person.
If they had a favourite flower or they had a preference for a certain colour, this could be a great way to help you decide on the right flowers.
You may also wish to consider a tribute, a type of arrangement which is shaped to form something symbolic of their personality such as their profession or hobbies. I’ve created all sorts of shapes as funeral tributes from sporting equipment, football shirts in team colours, to horse riding and musical instruments.
3. Appropriate Colours For Funerals
Funeral flowers tend to be relatively sombre in colour, nothing too detracting from the funeral itself. White flowers represent peace and therefore Lilies and white Roses may be appropriate as well as blue flowers to represent comfort… but that’s not to say that bright colours can’t be used. I’ve created some vibrant and uplifting funeral tributes in my 20 years in Floristry, using sunflowers and bright colours and they are often some of the most memorable.
4. Getting The Size Right
Unless you are arranging the funeral, you will not be expected to buy casket sprays, therefore it is probably best that you keep your funeral flowers quite modest – a wreath or a spray is the best option for non-relatives. If you didn’t know the deceased very well then you may wish to consider a small floral posy as a respectful tribute.
5. Including A Message
It is common and appropriate to include a message with your flowers. Keep it simple and tasteful, using expressions such as ‘With fond memories of (Name) and love from (Your Name)’ or ‘With deepest sympathy from (Your Name)’.
6. Ordering Your Flowers From A Florist
Florists have a wealth of experience in dealing with funeral flowers and will be able to advise you on the best arrangements and colours for you. By telling them about the deceased they can make some great recommendations to you, and if they are local, may be able to help advise on what other people in the family have purchased, as well as ensure safe delivery to the funeral venue.